I really hate being the most responsible person in every relationship.
I don’t know what is up with all of my close personal associates, but they absolutely have no idea how to act like responsible individuals in a friendship or romantic partnership. I feel like I am always steering the ship and trying to be the psychologist for everybody involved. Recently, this was coming up again in regards to my romantic partnership and an important talk that we needed to have. Specifically, I have been very unhappy with the day to day air temperature control settings in our house. I know that we need to reduce our reliance on the central heating, cooling, and air quality control system that we installed a few years ago. I never thought that I would feel so much pressure to have a conversation about a forced air furnace and air conditioning system… But I am quite certain that my indoor Comfort and anger over the daily energy bill need to be addressed sooner rather than later. This is why I decided to confront my partner about our irresponsible HVAC temperature settings. I knew we were going to be in for a fight because he was a big proponent of utilizing the HVAC equipment we had. Personally, I think we should try to make the heating and cooling units last. I gently sat down with my partner and tried to approach the indoor air quality control issue… Only for him to get rather hotheaded. After a boiling exchange we both realized that the indoor air temperature was only the tip of the iceberg. Now we are in couples counseling, not only for the HVAC but all of our relationship problems. At least I’m not the authority anymore.